Love & Relationships

Warning Signs of a Troubled Relationship

The seven warning signs that a relationship is in trouble are:

  1. Fighting has become the rule rather than the exception to the rule.
  2. You find yourself looking outside the relationship for comfort, care, and understanding.
  3. You can’t remember what attracted you to your partner in the first place.
  4. There is little or no intimacy in your relationship — sleeping in different rooms or different beds, lack of interest, anger, and hostility so that intimacy is out of the question.
  5. Spending very little time together, friends seem to be more important than your partner.
  6. Reactions to situations are disproportionate to the content of the disagreement (i.e., feeling your partner doesn’t love you because she/he didn’t like the meal you cooked).
  7. Feeling helpless and hopeless to change anything. Feeling done with the relationship, but unclear as to where to go and what to do. Feelings of anger, resentment, pain, and desperation are predominant.

If any or all of these describe you in your relationship, your relationship is in trouble and it won’t be long before something more drastic happens, such as an affair, arguments get worse and inflate with intensity, increased jealousy, silence for longer periods of time, and sometimes even physical and/or verbal abuse. Before your relationship reaches that critical crisis point, look at the warning signs and do something before it’s too late:

Seek psychotherapy
Read books
Talk to a spiritual/religious advisor

Without help, the relationship will never get better with time; once a certain level of resentment, anger, and hostility hits, it will simply get worse and worse. Avoiding a total crisis and saving the relationship is done by knowing when you’re in trouble and taking immediate action.